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Beginning to Observe Ourselves as the Observer

In his book "From Knowledge to Wisdom1," Julio Olalla shares a quote by R.D. Laing, the English psychoanalyst:

The range of what we think and do
Is limited by what we fail to notice.
And because we fail to notice
There is little we can do
To change
Until we notice
How failing to notice
Shapes our thoughts and deeds.

Julio uses the quote in his essay of knowing versus observing. With ontological coaching, one begins to "notice" or "observe himself as an observer" in life; to begin to notice where we are limited and to gain some power in whom we create ourselves to "be" in life. Rather than change, I like to use the word "shift" or "transform" a way-of-being.

To notice what we fail to notice or to observe oneself as an observer, one consciously learns to recognize where we operate in the domains of what we "speak" (linguistics), our emotions and/or moods, and our body dispositions. When we are "failing to notice," we are limited in being able to transform our automatic, or put another way, transparent ways-of- being.

Being automatic at times works for us; for instance, driving our cars on a daily basis. We do not have to remember to look into the mirror every 30 seconds or so, we do not have to remember to move the wheel at every little curve in the road, we don't even have to remember to look for the normal turn we take when we come to the street we live on; we just turn. We might be pulled from our automaticity when someone swerves into us while we are driving or a policeman pulls us over which, in essence, creates a "break" in our automatic way-of-being.

Ontological coaching assists clients in consciously creating breaks with transparent ways-of-being that do not work in their lives; where we have been "failing to notice" and therefore powerless in tranforming to what will work. Where we focus are the three domains: linguistics, emotions/moods and body dispositions which work together along with our cultural distinctions, to keep our automatic or transparent way-of-being in place.