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October 2010: "Thoughts on our Economic Situation"
by Patricia Hirsch

What's up with us and the economy? Are we really all that surprised that our hedonistic spending and our lack of saving has gotten us into this state of financial collapse? Not them, us. Yes, us. They are not doing it to us or not doing enough for us; we are doing it to ourselves, which begs the question, "What can we do so that we now begin to be responsible for ourselves?"

We are the ones who have lived like there is no tomorrow; we are the ones that had to have the latest and greatest even though the older "not so latest and not so greatest" still served, and probably still, serves us. Aren't we the ones with the huge landfills that are taking up large areas that are filled with very good products half-used and thrown away?

"Americans generate trash at an astonishing rate of 4.6 pounds (2.1 kilograms) per day per person, which translates to 251 million tons (228 million metric tons) per year [source: EPA]." via science.howstuffworks.com.

Who are we blaming? What's up with us "pointing fingers at ourselves" by saying it's something outside of ourselves? Does that not make sense? Go back to your history classes, get out your old textbooks, and guess what? We are the ones who elect government officials to represent us.

"Ok," you say, "Then let's point to the fact that we made mistakes in who we elected." What I say is, no, we did not. Our representatives represent us by having been elected from the majority. They are the ones who were either brave or dumb enough to think they could make a difference in this world; the way it's been done since our government first began, and when things are not going as they perhaps envisioned, those brave or dumb representatives either get ridiculed or dumped on because we think and claim, "They should know everything there is to know! Especially the fact that we don't want to be responsible for ourselves, but we want to blame it on somebody, and it's especially easy to blame it on you, the ones we elected!"

Have you ever noticed how our Presidents, the ones we elect, have all turned gray immediately? Do you ever wonder why that is? Our representatives either turn gray, turn to crime, or 'fall in step' with most of the other lemmings who gave up trying to make a difference, and they are now just resigned to the fact that they cannot do it for us.

Have you considered that we are going to have to clean up this mess for ourselves? It's like our mom has just told us we cannot get our allowance or play with our friends until we clean up our bedroom. This economic situation is our bedroom.

How do you spend your money? Are you wise about it or reckless? This is not your mother asking; this is me asking you to inquire for yourself. Are you buying without the need to buy? Are you buying things you don't need but hey - it's the happening thing to do! Are you saving at least 10% of what you earn? (If you earn $100.00, are you saving $10.00 for days such as this?) Are you planning responsibly to care for yourself and your family? Are you teaching your children to be responsible or to live from an "iNtitlement" conversation? Yes, I know it's really spelled "entitlement," but aren't we allowing ourselves and our children to think we/they are entitled to have the next cool iPhone or iPad or be iNtitled to "whatever we want! Harumph!"?

Let's think this through, shall we?

Patricia

Patricia Hirsch, MBA, Master Certified Coach
Chief Empowerment Officer with Design Your Life Coaching

 


October 2010: "What Is Your Mind Doing?"
by Beth Griffith


What if your clients could read your mind?

Several years ago, I was working with a client who appeared to be stuck in a certain area of her life. After several sessions, I had decided what she needed to do in her particular situation. Before our meeting, I gathered information and came up with a plan to get her "unstuck." By the time we spoke, I knew what direction I wanted her to go in and what outcome would work best for her. The meeting fell flat, and the client seemed even more uncertain that before. In some ways, she had read my mind.

Here's how:

1. By the questions I had been asking her, she knew I was leading her somewhere and most likely felt like wherever she was or wherever she wanted to go wasn't right.

2. By offering "brainstorming with an agenda," I led her down a path that I thought was best without empowering her "suggestions."

3. I praised her for coming to conclusions that pleased me but didn't really work for her.

My "un-empowering" communication led her to the conclusion that I knew what was best for her or perhaps that I didn't understand her at all. She read my mind in a way and allowed me to take her to a place she wasn't sure she wanted to be.

What if the session had been an empowering one filled with possibility? Would I have done my homework ahead of time by researching alternatives? You bet! But I would have come to the session in the space of possibility. Here's what would have been different:

1. I would have come to the session with "nothing." In other words, no prior agenda of how it should go. My open-ended questions would have been based on what was happening in the moment and they would have been led by the client.

2. Brainstorming would have been a sharing of creative ideas with no attachment to the outcome and an open mind as to what could be created in that moment.

3. Acknowledgement is a big one. Who wouldn't want to be acknowledged for who they are being rather than what ideas they come up with that might please me.

Just imagine your next meeting if the client really could read your mind. What would you want them to see? An agenda based on what you previously decided was best for them? Or, a space full of empowerment, believing the client to be naturally creative, resourceful, and whole? The choice is yours!

Beth is a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC); and has her degree in sociology; as well as an extensive background in personal growth education. Her expertise is in joining with clients at the heart level, and has a wonderful way of bringing forth each client's truth. After being diagnosed with breast cancer in 2007, Beth's journey has allowed her to develop a deep compassion for what it is to be courageous in the face of adversity, and an understanding that we truly do heal together. Beth believes that whether your focus is personal or business, it really is all about relationships.

Copyright 2010. All rights reserved.

To learn more about Beth Griffith, CPCC, ACC:
www.bethgriffith.com
bgriff@cox.net
949.249.1036.