A Personal Vision for your Future Pulls you Forward from the Present

What is a Vision? Have you put much thought into why businesses have visions? Many years ago (I don’t even remember when or how), I discovered the beauty of creating a Personal Vision for myself. I think I must have stolen the best of all I’ve heard or learned about visions because it is working for me.

Since my discovery, I now always have a roadmap in my life for where I am headed. When someone has asked me, “How are you?” rather than the perfunctory and uninteresting habit of voicing, “I’m fine,” I have had the ability to answer from the many different challenges that I am facing in my life as I move towards my vision.

Your Vision creates a future that pulls you forward from the present.

Hence, this is one reason why businesses have created 3-5 year visions, so that their stockholders, employees and lenders know the business has something at stake and is worth investing in.

A Personal Vision can be created for a shorter time period of 1-3 years. Questions I will ask you include: What do you see possible for yourself in 1-3 years? Who would you like people to “speak you to be” in 1-3 years? In other words, who are they saying you are? Are you willing to create your own future, or are you only going to allow yourself to drift into whatever takes you wherever it takes you? I call that “surviving.” I’m sure you have seen many people surviving in their lives. They wake up to the day with no purpose, no future, nothing to have them jump out of bed and hit the floor running; only a life of “waiting to see” what will happen. Yawn! BORing and fruitless.

Do you think Babe Ruth had a Personal Vision?
From the http://www.baseball-almanac.com/:

“In 1927, Babe Ruth set the first truly long-term single season home run standard. However, his first Major League home run record was established during the 1919 season when he connected a then unbelievable twenty-nine (29) times with the Boston Red Sox. The 1919 plateau was considered at the time an “unreachable mark” until the following year when the Bambino smashed his own record by going deep fifty-four (54) times—then beat that record just one year later when he went deep fifty-nine (59) times. A few seasons passed and the 1920 record seemed safe until 1927, when the Sultan of Swat blasted sixty (60) long balls (details below) in just one-hundred fifty-five (155) games.”

It’s also worthy to note that Babe Ruth struck out 1,330 times; however, that is subject matter for another Laser Coaching Tip!

Creating a Personal Vision takes thought. To “think” as in consciously using your thought processes. Digging into your values, your beliefs, what gives you pleasure, what gives you pause in your life; real unadulterated and rewarding thought.

Exercise:
Begin with one word descriptions of what people will say about you in 1-3 years. For instance, one of mine is “contribution.” Another is “joyful.” Another is “integrity.”

Fill up one full page of one word descriptions by writing down anything that inspires you. Next, pick and choose the words that “call” to you the most and circle them. Finally, put them together in a short sentence. Now I say short because you want to create a vision that you will remember, one that if someone were to say, “Hi, how are you? What are you up to these days?” you will be able to answer immediately.

You will be able to answer from your Personal Vision, from what you have created in your future that is pulling you forward from right now, and right now, and right now, and finally, right now.

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Have we become a country of looking from what’s wrong rather than what’s possible?

Watching the President this morning ask what we have to do to get ourselves out of our “neutral” economy. I’ve got some ideas… what if we start taking jobs back from other countries until we have stabilized our own economy?  I rarely find products now that say, “Made in USA.” What’s up with that?  If we produced goods and services here, wouldn’t it put us back to work?  What can we begin to develop, produce and then offer to our foreign importers that they want to purchase from us, tilting the scale back to us doing something for ourselves?
What if we begin to tax imports much like quite a few other countries at 20% import tax?
What if we begin to tax businesses who take their business overseas rather than give them a tax break as we do now?
What if large groups of people are gathered by the media NOT to get together to “whine and complain” about what our government is not doing for us but rather to work towards making our country whole and peaceful and brilliant again?  Remember those days?
Regardless of what the media has termed as important, e.g.,
“what’s wrong with the latest drug infused Hollywood actor or actress?
a bus driving off the road in Ohio when you live in California
what political party someone is associated with and how wrong is that
what the differences are in each other
what’s wrong? what’s wrong? what’s wrong?” because the good news “doesn’t contribute to the bottom line?
What if we tax the media to have the right to cause the upset and concern by “reporting” their sensationalist stories?
What if we acted from what…
John F. Kennedy said in his inaugural address, “And so, my fellow Americans, ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country.”
… and come together with the sole purpose of looking for what we can do WORKING WITH RATHER THAN AGAINST each other?
Aren’t you sick and tired of the infighting country we have become? The country that almost runs the people off the road that have decided they need to slow down in their cars to take a right turn? The righteous, indignant, warring factions we have become much like what we declare doesn’t work in countries like Iraq? Think about it. don’t Democrats remind you of Shiites and Republicans remind you of Sunis.  How are we being so different right now?
What are each of us doing for ourselves to bolster our country to be the great country it can be?  The American dream is based on ingenuity of the people; have we given up and given in to the settlement that we cannot do it ourselves?
This is a wake up call, folks, what’s it going to take for us to look to what we can create that’s possible?
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Sometimes I’m not perfect and yet I always am

Do you ever notice some days just refuse to go well for you? Well, I notice that for me on occasion. In fact, yesterday was one of those days.

I woke up into a beautiful fall morning and chose to go for a long walk from my home, down along a bluff overlooking the beautiful Back Bay of the Newport Beach, and down a dirt path to the Back Bay Road, alongside one of the largest fresh water, salt water mudflats in the USA, and a protected bird reserve. I certainly had a moment of repose with my favorite experiences in life, being with nature.  I was prepared for another wonderful day of living.

As the day wore on, I noticed my way of being becoming frustrated and generally irritated with several challenges, conversations, and incidents resulting in me becoming anything other than what I would describe as not perfect. I didn’t want to be with me let alone what I would think others would want!

….and yet, I know that the person I always am is perfect. No, not my looks, my thoughts, all my ways of being, what I own, and how much I make. Who I am though in the moment is perfect for who I am in the moment and who I will choose to become. It begins here because here is all I have so how could I not be perfect.

Now, I have some things to “clean up” from yesterday.

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This I keep learning: let it in

You would think after having run (3) marathons, (1) of which I trained with Team in Training and raised $5100 for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society, (5) half marathons, numerous 10Ks, biked on 250 mile trips, and generally always counted on others to support me, that I would realize that to be successful in my endeavors, it’s imperative that I accept support. You would think, huh?

This morning I was walking on a 45 minute walk at a good pace and passed several people who were out there running, biking and getting their morning exercise. The morning was gorgeous and I’ve learned to say good morning to others. I was curious as to how people received my greetings.. some “let it in” and others didn’t. The ones that let it in were smiling and generally looking as if they were on top of the world. The ones that did not let it in had sullen looks on their faces or avoided my eyes altogether. So I gave myself a little kudos however realized that I too, sometimes, do not let it in.

I do not let the world show up as wonderful and rather choose, because I completely get that when I am not letting it in, I am choosing, to not. I am choosing to live in my head, if you will, of whatever current drama I am involved in. Drama = story = assessments of how the world is not treating me right = good material for a novel and doesn’t always work to live a great life and yes, I have been there.

I notice that I am not there, stuck in my own drama, when I choose to let it all in.  Thank you to those of you who put your greetings, words of encouragement, and smiles out there for me to, once again, allow myself to let it all in.

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Wants as Compared to Commitments

How many times have you realized that you’ve just had an incredible insight that could make all the difference in the world for your life? Insights happen to us every single day, time and time again, and more often than not, we choose not to act on our insights for some reason or another. Many of these insights could actually alter our lives in ways that will support us in what we have been saying we want.

There is little surprise that we don’t often act on insights no matter how incredible we think they are, especially when they are driven by what we “want.” You see, when there is a commitment, there is something to pull you forward into your future from the present. Have you ever considered moving your wants into commitments?

Going after what we want is a challenge that we face every day. It might show up in the form of saying we want to lose weight or exercise more but when the alarm goes off in the morning, we opt to turn it off and stay in bed because we decide then that we want to be comfortable. Wants are fleeting and pull us around in the moment.

Being committed is another matter. When one is committed, when you have set something up that’s bigger than your wants, your commitment will get you up in the morning.

What are you committed to in your life?

If you are committed to your “wants,” then get used to it; your great insights will be just that and hopefully, one or two may lead to you being pleased with your life. There is no right or wrong in whether you move into action after having that insight; there is just the opportunity to discover something about yourself that you would not otherwise have had. What would your life be like if you did exercise regularly, or lost weight, or wrote that book, or even took that class on marketing or learning a new language or… or… or… ? When you are at the end of your life, might you look back and have a sense of accomplishment that you might not have had otherwise?

Would you have lived your life with boldness as per Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, who said it this way,

Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness concerning all acts of initiative and creation.

There is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans; that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too, all sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred.

A whole stream of events issues from the decision raising in one’s favor all manner of unforseen events, meetings and material assistance which no one could have dreamed would have come their way.

Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now!”

Boldness! Why not? What are you waiting for? Your life will turn out the way you choose it, right now… and now… and now…

What Goethe forgot to remind us about is that it is always much easier to reach your commitments with someone else in your court. It’s not impossible to do on your own, and when you are supported by a committed listener, someone who will listen to you as if your life depends on your word, you will be driven forward by someone who stands with you for your accountability.

Observation/Exercise
Set aside some time for you to spend ‘mind-mapping’ on your life, maybe 30-60 minutes in one of your favorite and accessible locations. Make sure you have a piece of paper and a pen.

Determine what’s next for you in your life. Start with something from a recent insight that you have had. What attracted you to that insight? What did it mean to you? What possibilities did you see for yourself that you hadn’t seen before? What emotions did it call forth for you?

Stop for a moment, close your eyes and think about the “yumminess” that your insight brought up.

Write it down. What do you see that would fit in to that perfect world for you; perhaps something grounded in your “wants” but more powerful would be something that will have you look back in your future and examine your life with pride and satisfaction?

In other words, what calls for you to commit to next? What will you “do or dream?” What will you begin? Will you live your life with boldness? Now is the time to discover the “genius, power and magic” of it.

Finally, find your committed listener to be there for you, someone who will listen from what is possible for you in living your life into your commitment.

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